PM Thread #5 - Hope new plan works

[PositivelyMommy]

So, thanks everyone for your good thoughts, especially for Mother's Day. I know it is hard on all of us on the 'big days'. I actually had a pretty good one, considering the tornadoes this past year.

The kids were so cute, they made fruit salad for me and made me coffee. They gave me presents (which they snuck out to get with their Dad the day before). One was a coffee mug and another was a digital photo key chain. Very nice. The kids are so wonderful. I was surprised that H went out of his way to do this with them since he has NEVER done this before! I don't know but I think DB might be working!

On Sunday night, after we put the kids to sleep. He stayed over a little longer and we just chatted about stuff, his family, his mother, basically his news. (Again, much like how it was when we were still together). He didn't sit down but I sat on the couch, in my pj's and I made sure my body language was relaxed and I had a smile on my face the whole time. We didn't talk about anything serious but I remember JCJ saying that sometimes we can talk about non-serious stuff and maybe one day he would feel comfortable enough with R talk.

I just wanted more experiences where he felt comfortable talking with me. That, as Kev said, he didn't feel guilty and we could just get on.

It's ironic but ever since our Counselling session where he basically said that he wants to remain separated eventually leading to D and I did NOT react to it. It's like a huge burden has been lifted from his shoulders, I imagine. He seems a bit more relaxed. I guess it's a feeling of, I did it, I told her I don't want to be with PM anymore. But in reaction to that, he is feeling LESS aloof!! In fact, it's like he is reaching out to me MORE. It's very very minor, just a vibe I am getting. No definite proof yet. I will continue to monitor and not pressure.