You've been asking this question for a long time now. I think you ask because you are seeking validation, because you are afraid to do it.
You have to make this decision. It sounds like Hooper understands your position and your career the most. I would listen to him.
I agree with Hooper that she shouldn't have the right to come and go, and follow you into your bedroom, with the house. You should change your locks and stand at the door when she comes over so that she doesn't enter into the rooms anymore. She has to feel more boundaries now.
It is really gross that she is talking to your D as if she's a girlfriend. It's disrespectful to the father of her child and trashy. But, then again... if the shoe fits, I suppose that is exactly what you need to expect.
I'm ALL for you doing whatever you can to get full custody of your D. I don't care what the realistic expectation should be. If you two end up moving to all different parts of the country because of your jobs, your D should stay with you.
Keep behaving as a fine man. Listen to Hooper about no drinking, get the booze out of the house, tidy up the house perfectly. Set the stage.
