The adventure continues--the saga

[AFWAW]

Wow, I still am waking up at 3 am. I guess I'm contemplating what to do over the next few days as far as exposure goes. I don't see any other way. Now that my D knows I feel like my wife has come full circle in her disrespect and disregard towards me and her family. I have given her every opportunity to come home and she has basically spit in my face. I don't see how this could get worse. I have to expose. If I don't I think I will regret it for the rest of my life. If I'm missing anything, if anyone has any reason why I shouldn't do this please give me your thoughts. I know that this is an emotional decision but I am doing my utmost best to focus and to inject logic into my sitch. If I don't expose, the affair continues. If my wife is telling my D that he's very handsome, then there is no way she intends to end this and move home in my mind. If I do expose, the military at the very least will question my wife and OM and issue no contact orders while an investigation insues. My wife was stupid enough to tell me that 3 civilians she works with know about the OM. So again, I ask, what's the downside to exposing?