confused.....want to do something.....

[pearlharbr]

Orchid, you need to mentally prepare yourself. There is no quick fix. There will be a lot of down days in the near future, especially if you're not working right now (I know from personal experience). Plan as much as you can. Make a daily itinerary and keep yourself busy.

Look around for sandi2's list of things to do/not do. It's a great resource and right now it's helpful to have a set of guidelines to follow.

Use this time to focus on yourself. If your H did not give you any reasons for his decision it's up to you to conduct an honest assessment of your relationship and yourself. What attitudes/behaviors did you exhibit in the past that your H commented on? How can you become the best person you can be? This situation sucks. The only way to turn the pain into something positive is to use this opportunity for personal growth. Sounds trite I know, but honestly that's the only thought that kept me going some days.

So...what have you always wanted to try? Do you have a hobby that you haven't done in a long time? If you need inspiration watch the movie "Yes Man."