Okay now it's been 6 months of ?????

[pearlharbr]

Kenn, you know I love you but I'm going to slap you around a bit. As long as you continue to do everything for W she is cake eating. She has OM for excitement and you to take care of everything at home. Stop being her handyman. If it doesn't directly relate to your D's safety or well being then W needs to handle it on her own. She can't fix a lamp? Say "You're right, you really should have an electrician look at that."

Why are you pissed that she's living a fantasy life without responsibility? You are the one giving it to her.

By staying so available you are doing two things: enabling her to cake eat and remaining the focus of her/your (couple's) problems.

xBF has told me that when I kicked him out and refused to speak to him on a personal level it forced him to reassess the situation. He thought about me all the time, missed me, and realized that I was not the source of his unhappiness.

I know you cannot go completely dark because of your D. But you can stop acting like W's best buddy. If saying no makes you a dork then you need to be the biggest dork you can imagine.