Thanks for the insight. It's great to get another person's perspective. You made a lot of sense. Your advice for me was exactly what I needed to hear! Thanks so much! We've had a rough day and I left to go to my girlfriends house and she coached me the same way! I took out the book and reread the Last Resort Technique. After I'd been home awhile he came upstairs and said he was going for coffee because he needed to think. Said sorry about today and he said you didn't do anything I just need to get away and think. I said I get it that's just what I had to do. Between you and my friend I think I got the kick in the pants I needed.
I am usually a strong women and I have been so unhappy with myself for coming unraveled the way I have. I think I just needed my big meltdown at my friends house and your message to help me get my head on straight. My friend reminded me that it's only been a week since he actually said he wanted to split up and that what I'm feeling is natural - I just need to not let him see it at all.
He'll for sure be sleeping in the basement tonight and I'm actually grateful for that. I think I need to sleep without stress to get my courage and strength back.
Hopefully it's not too late and he's thinking about moving out at all costs. Not sure where he can go - there's no extra money in the budget at all. Hopefully, it will help him to get away to the Lake next weekend. The following weekend I'm going to the lake with our sons - maybe it would be best if he didn't go with us though I'm not sure how we'll explain it to the boys.
I've also decided to visit to my brother in June and see if one of my girlfriends can go with me. I haven't seen my almost 3-year niece in two years. I can't wait to get my hands on her!
I just have to say thank you again! I know there's no easy fix to this and it may take a long time to get through this. Guess I'll be building my patience muscles.
