Sounds like a great weekend! Will you be with family tomorrow for Mother's Day? Holidays can be difficult, so it would be good if you can be with your family... which I imagine you will be. But I would think Mother's Day will be more difficult for your wife then you, she's the one who is no longer living with her kids, and Mother's Day will be a huge reminder to her about this...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
About tomorrow, W is taking the kids out for breakfast then I'll take the kids to my parents house
I think she is having a hard time and pray Mothers Day will put a crack in the fog which surrounds her. Not expecting it to and I know S15 does not want to go tomorrow (his girlfriend mentioned it to me this morning), S15 told her he will go cause its free food. He still is very mad at his mom and I'm not sure if W is doing anything about it. She seems to concentrate more on S13. S13 did get his mom a card, S15 refused to acknowledge this holiday this year.
W came over and took kids to breakfast then dropped them off about an hour later. Me and the kids along with S15 girlfriend went to my parents house for the day. My brother and his wife and their dog also showed up. We ate then watched the Sox lose then went on a long walk. Came back and played some games then ate a cake I made and now we are back home and getting ready for bed. It was a beautiful day and somewhat sad as I missed W and I have to think she missed out being with her kids all day....at least I hope she misses them somewhat.
In the past for Mother's day I would make breakfast for her, my mom and my MIL and we would spend the day at our house.
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
Today very busy day at work and at home. Work went by fast as I was in meetings and or getting ready for meetings about the work we did over the weekend and new projects I'm now running. Then came home, made dinner then picked up S15 from baseball practice then got S13 from his practice then we ate. Then I went on a walk and met a friend and we walked & talked for over an hour. Then went grocery shopping, came home kids helped put them away and now reading emails and getting ready for bed.
Tomorrow is another day And I will continue to pray for my W and my kids
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
Always a good thing being busy. It keeps thoughts from creeping and brings some peace in the chaos. Wishes for peace for you, your wife, and your children!
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
Yesterday, had a lot of negative thoughts as I'm still battling the what could I have done before to prevent my W from leaving. I know I cannot change the past and I did not make her have an A but sometimes I'm struggling with blaming myself So, I'll keep praying and working at this and get stronger each day.
Last night S15's team won 21-0, he had 4 hits!! It was a fun game but we felt sorry for the other team as we know how it feels to be on the losing end of a lopsided game. (W missed another game). Today's game is rained out as its been raining most of the day and we may get hail later.
After, the game last night, I picked up subs and S15 from school. S13 was home and we all had dinner together again
I asked them how they are doing and if they had any questions or concerns about mom not living at home. They both said "no" and then I asked them if they wanted to speak with a counselor and again they both said "no". So far, they seem ok but I like to check in with them every once in a while and reassure them that I love them and will be here for them. In addition, I told them they can come to me any time they want or need to talk and they both said "ok".
I will continue to pray for my W, my kids and everyone here.
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
As far as what you could have done to discourage you W from leaving.... I don't know.... maybe taken her skydiving.... or bought a Harley a few years ago, and started a serious weight lifting regimen, and filled your biceps with tattoos...
Quite honestly I think it's not you, but something inside of her. But I think as a father you are doing great. Your boys are lucky to have you as a dad. Without your stability and involvement, their stuggles with this situation would be much worse.
Have you made any fun plans for the weekend? Any fun GALing activities?
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Well, until the bomb dropped I was lifting weights regularly and going to the YMCA about 6 days a week. Since, then have been walking a lot but plan to start lifting again in June. This did give me joints a break. Would have bought a Harley except I was never into motorcycles and my W always said she would never ride one until she met OM. I agree I think she snapped cause we did have a very good marriage and she never complained or told me what the problem was even after she met OM and told me about the PA. So, the changes I'm working on with my IC will come from me and be for me and the changes will be real. If she notices then great if not then her loss As I have said I will pray for her and I pray to God that He will restore our marriage as I took my vows very seriously and when the time is right we can have a new more incredible marriage!
This weekend: baseball Friday then the kids probably will have some friends over and we'll order pizza and they'll play xbox or something.
Saturday: S13 has baseball team pictures at 8:00am then a game at 9:30am (I'll take him to pictures then W will take him to his game) S15 has a double header starting at 10:00am which I'll go to after S13's pictures. After baseball my brother will come over with his foosball table that his is giving us Not sure what I'm going to do Saturday night yet.
Sunday: morning the kids and I have a bike-a-thon for American Cancer Society, then S13 has a game at 1:00 then we will go to my parents for dinner. Then Sunday night relax!!
then went on a long walk. Came back and played some games then ate a cake I made and now we are back home and getting ready for bed. It was a beautiful day and somewhat sad as I missed W and I have to think she missed out being with her kids all day....at least I hope she misses them somewhat.