I just wanted to acknowledge that H did admit he was wrong to be jealous of my exh and that no matter what he felt, he should not have reacted as he did.
We had some interesting talks this weekend - he seems to be getting a lot from IC and the meetings (he went to a lot of them this week and weekend). I continue to hear some changes in his thinking and admissions of both positive and negative thoughts not able to voice before.
We discussed ways to make our R more "friendly" and less focused on problem solving. He is still getting used to the idea of seeing things from another person's perspective and in this case my perspective - increasing his awareness of how it might feel to be in my shoes looking at him and the things he did. I think he is getting it.
Just trying to acknowledge the things that are working.
SO2, I will have to think about what you sent. My H isn't into not having time with me - it is more about wanting things his own way and that includes as much time with me as possible - something that isn't always what I want. One thing that AA and church have encouraged in his life is more socialization. IC encourages do more on his own and allowing some separation between us.
By the way, MOther's Day was great! My S researched menus for a gourmet brunch and did all the cooking. It was wonderful - a lot of my favorites. It always amazes me when I can see that the kids notice what I like or what pleases me. D stayed home for the day which is unusual and I showed some of the homes I was looking at since she will most likely be staying there too.
