Well, I sent off information about pensions to XW that she'll get tomorrow. I laid out some of the basics w/out being specific, but also put out two extremely fair offers to her to settle w/out going through the legal process and spending any more money.
I'm hoping she'll look at these and pick one of the two so we can settle up and move on. It would be so nice to get this over with, but I'm not holding my breath for her to act in a good way. I'll keep my fingers crossed it will happen, however.
Personally, I do have someone I'm interested in and I'm working hard to take it slowly to not seem too eager or needy. I've been with her three or four times and so far, things are really good.
My problem is with being patient and letting things just happen. I'm doing my best to change this part of me, but old habits do die hard, unfortunately.
So, for now, I'm focusing on my thoughts of self-discipline as they apply w/dating too: Do what you should do when you should do it regardless of how you feel about it. I'm doing this w/this new lady b/c I want to contact her, but know I shouldn't "overwhelm" her w/contact, so I repeat the above phrase to myself whenever I get anxious about talking w/her.
Oh, I wish it was easier. I hate being in a spot where you really like someone again because it was so nice to originally get it out of the way, date, be married, and feel like you'll never have to go through it all again.
I know that isn't reality, but I kind of miss those days right now.
