WAW1 - Anticipation

[markhaving probs]

As suspected my wife turned up without rings and smart casual. I was upbeat and had been reading a book in the garden. She noticed the grass needed cutting, but I informed her there was a gardener who maintained the garden. She uttered "no gardening, reading you book all day" in a sarcastic tone. It was if to say how lucky I am, I felt quite good about that.

I ignored her comment as she cannot now draw me into a row, which I now find very easy. She left, we played in the garden for awhile, I cooked a sunday roast chicken, and ice cream to follow. I gave the children a shower and got them ready for bed.

When W arrived the children told her what we had done and had eaten, also my daughter's books had arrived for our night time reads. I also gave my daughter some money for a trip she is going on tomorrow. At no stage did my wife thank me or really take any interest in what they had done, in actual fact she was quite distant. I never asked her anything about what she had done this afternoon. She does not seem angry but her mood seems 'strange' like she is day-dreaming one minute and then agitated the next and then attempts to be confrontational thereafter.

She attempted to draw me into another row by saying she had bumped into some friends who had seen me three weeks ago. The conversation I had with the friends involved me saying I missed the children who had then told my wife. My W sarcastically said "did you go for the sympathy vote saying you missed the children", she also said I need to watch the children more for some reason. Basically, she failed on every level to engage me into a fight, also, she could not find any fault with me but still tried to put me down. It was like water off a ducks back, she even said to me "are you alright?". I said I am fine thank you.

I told her I would have my son to stay on Tuesday and then they left. I thought I dealt with the whole afternoon/evening well in regard to DR as I put the childrens needs first, I was able to negate negativity coming from my wife and I showed from her comments about t he garden etc that she feels I am GAL and getting on with things.