This is my first blog post - ever..I have been reading people's stories and have gained alot of comfort in knowing that I am not alone in what I am going thru. Here is my story......
My husband and I have been married for 3.5 years. We do not have children. I am 35 and he is 38. We have been together for 8 years or so. For the past 7 months he has not been able to find a job he feels he wants to commit to. He has been very restless and has been moving around every 2-3 months....searching for whatever it is he needs while I stayed put.
I had tried to talk to him, but he was not open to discussion. We normally have always talked everything thru and so I thought he just needed some space and time to figure it out. I should mention it is the first time he has the freedom to do whatever he wants........jobwise. I knew this would be a difficult transition, but I never thought that he would come to me (2 weeks ago) with divorce papers in hand. He says he has nothing left to give. He says he is confused and doesn't know where his life is going. He doesn't want the responsibility of a wife. He doesn't want a wife. He just wants to be alone. He has not only withdrawn from me, but also his own family and friends. He doesn't want to talk.
I don't feel like this is really happening. We have not really even had a fight. How come HE has decided to divorce me by himself and I just have to sit back and accept this. Its frustrating. I thought this is exactly why being married is valuable! When you are lost, there is someone there who will understand you and give u what u require at that time or at least stand by and hold your hand while you figure it out?
He has agreed to meet me for a weekend - a month from now. Until then, I have cut off all financial ties with him and am trying to get thru one day at a time. I am wondering what I should expect from this first and perhaps only meeting? If he does not know why he has filed for divorce and yet wants it, how am I supposed to really stop this from happening?
And in the meantime, I cannot initiate any contact, according to the DR and I am having the hardest time with this. I texted him this afternoon and now am regretting this. I know I am not supposed to persue him........sigh. I just am left with "What the heck happened to call it completely quits???" Can I do anything right now?
I start working in a month and so have so much time on my hands and not alot of funds. But, I am concentrating on improving my independent self, but want to know how to proceed. If anyone has any suggestions, it would be great. Thank you.
