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I like what Kat said. What a smart lady she is. Oh, and she knows MEN realllly well. Hee hee...just look at fb and you'll know what I'm talking about.

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Silly you, I may have done well on that test but it hasn't gotten me anywhere in real life! ;\) Men...go figure.

Make yourself an awesome day.

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Happy Mother's Day Corey!!! Hope you have a great day!!! Karen


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Happy Mother's Day Corey. \:\)

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(((Corey)))

Hope your mother's day was great!

Hang in there!!


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Thanks for the lovely Mothers Day wishes. It was really low key and I spent it with my kids. We took a candle and a card over to MIL's house about 5pm after spending most of the day in the pool. We hung out there for awhile and then came home.

Not much new is going on here.


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Ok everyone...here is the latest.

H and I were texting last night. I have not felt like he has given any effort whatsoever to trying to put this back together and said as much. So in response to my saying that he doesn't put any effort into our reconciliation because he doesn't want to, I got this:

I think in order for us to work it out I need to be at home with you.

So we texted a little more about that and his feeling is that we need to be together in the same house again in order to see if we can make it work.

I don't know what to think. Part of me thinks he is right, but part of me thinks that its a death sentence. Apart there is really no incentive to work on anything. I can always go to my house or he can just go to his mom's...if we are at the same place we will be forced to really work. The downside will be if he is unwilling to relinquish his need for control over things (my problem too) and just let some things happen.

Any input?


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Why not do a Retrouvaille weekend first. That way you will be starting fresh with a revitalized relationship, new communication and an awareness of each others' feelings. Check the website, http://www.helpourmarriage.org. Lots of places have weekends coming up.

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hey sil, wow, that is hard, i dont know what to tell you to do, I will pray for you and love you no matter what you do. you need to go read the poem my d16 wrote, its on my thread, grab a hankie!

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I say push up your sleeves, put on your gloves and get to work. Anything worth having is worth working your azz off for. You will need to set up some guide lines but I think this is good.

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