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Grace_O #1765388 05/10/09 11:20 AM
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Happy Mother's Day ladies!! Have a wonderful day.


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fisherman #1765402 05/10/09 12:16 PM
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Good Morning! OMG T, I think I have now read your most bizarre advice ever. I see that old personality peeking through...can I picture J's gf with a baby bottle, bonnet, and diaper?? LMAO!!!

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SoCo #1765406 05/10/09 12:32 PM
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Heck yeah, Do it!! It works. I do it and I can't help but smile every time. \:\)


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fisherman #1765408 05/10/09 12:39 PM
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Do tell, what do you picture him as?


"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out."
Robert Collier

"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments."
Henry Ward Beecher

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SoCo #1765432 05/10/09 02:38 PM
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Well as for him. I don't give him any head space. I really don't have to picture him as anything but what he really is.

A huge LOSER. It's no wonder she hides him from most people. That pretty much speaks for itself. It will get old and his true colors will shine through in time.

As for her, I kind of picture her as a cartoon character when she throws a fit. Only when it's called for though. If she is respectful then I treat her accordingly.

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fisherman #1765498 05/10/09 06:24 PM
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Yeah, the loser costume fits pretty well. J is wearing it prouly these days.


"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out."
Robert Collier

"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments."
Henry Ward Beecher

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SoCo #1765565 05/11/09 12:10 AM
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Well the kid exchange went smooth. The kids came back a little while ago. I told her she could have them for the night too. She said "the handbook says until 8:00pm." Ok. I was nice but distant.

I really don't know how to act. I'm not mad anymore, but I feel like I should have my guard up I guess, I struggle with this at times. What the hell do ya say?? Anyway....

I think she thought that the kids were going to make a big deal over this new kitten. They mentioned it when they first got here and now they haven't said another word.

I mentioned to her that it is time we decided on a school. She said "I know" and said no more.

The past few times I have not let her come in. I just meet her outside on the front steps. We spoke a little outside at one point I smiled at her when she was telling me about what the kids named the cat. When I smiled the look on her face was strange. Almost sad in a way and a little suprised I guess.
Odd.....

I get a sense she is bothered by how close of a realationship I have with the kids and how they are always excited when they come here.


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fisherman #1765605 05/11/09 02:26 AM
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Hey T--I really liked reading what you said about reflection, and it made a lot of sense. I also think I am going to take your example and do the same. I think on some level, we are all afraid to do that because we have to revisit some history. But in the long run, it is better to learn from our mistakes!


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

LolaL #1765675 05/11/09 11:56 AM
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Hey Lola!!

Well, I actually didn't really mean for any of that to happen. It just kind of came out of nowhere for a few days. I'll admit, I was really sad, scared too. I thought I was headed backwards. I still don't know why it happened, but I will say that today I feel so much better. All a part of the process I guess.


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fisherman #1765718 05/11/09 02:30 PM
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Hey, we can't control all of our emotions unfortunately. That's one of the things that makes us human.

J called last night about 9:30 and blahblahblahd at me about Mother's Day, how he misses me, loves me, etc. I had to just hang up the phone and had the tears rolling. Why???? Don't ask me. I don't want him back, and wouldn't take him back how he is. Emotions are sometimes hard to control.


"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out."
Robert Collier

"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments."
Henry Ward Beecher

me 33, s 9, d 4
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