May I offer up a suggestion to you? Have your h make a list of those items in the house that he wants. Have someone there the day he does the walk thru and stick to the list of items he wants. If it is something that you have purchased, you do not have to give it to him.
When my xh was demanding certain things from the home, he came w/two police officers. I have everything stacked neately in the guest bedroom and then allowed him to walk thru the house. The one and only thing he wanted was a cross stitch picture that I done and just recently had framed. I told him that he couldn't have it. Well...he left with his plastic Easter Egg, the second set of keys to his truck, his baby photos and some other stuff that I found in the attic that he would most likely ask for later. I gave him two other chance that same day to take whatever he wanted, but his comment was "I'll make a list". I advised him no, you take what you want today or you will not be afforded another chance. He advised his lawyer that he still had personal items in the house. I advised my lawyer he came, got what he demanded (on the list) and he left...I pulled out the paperwork that the police officers had written up for me. Needless to say, he got nothing more.
Stand your ground on items that you feel you will need. He's been gone a long time and this stuff about items belonged to someone else, then he should have them ring you up and request a pick up time w/you. Your h is trying to get everything he can and he's done nothing to meet you half way. Document whatever he's taken just in case in comes back and says he didn't get it.
You did well...stick to your guns on this one.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
