Hi Fallgirl! Happy Mother's Day! You do sound like you are doing well. Keep at it. Your H may be surprised (and sad?) that you are doing well with out him as your focus. If so, at some point he may just start taking an interest in you again, so be patient and let it ride a bit longer before changing things.
Take care!
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