Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

He is not going through anger. We actually get along very well these days. We just don't have any emotional intimacy and he's said that he's 95% sure he doesn't want to work on the M, but he continues to be physically affectionate, initiate contact, express concern about me, etc. His anger "hot button" right now is me "snooping" which he defines as anything that causes me to ask questions - even if it's reviewing credit card bills that I've always reviewed. Other than fighting over that, I don't know that we've had a fight since bomb. He does get testy, but it's exhibited by being short when he speaks to me. No name calling, yelling, etc. In fact, he just called me on the way home (midnight my time) so I wouldn't worry (he had a DUI a couple of weeks ago and since then has made it a habit to call on his way home - not by my request). Told me he loves me. I choose to believe that's not a lie. Maybe not the love a H should have for a W, but I do think he still cares.

Now that I think about it, the best way I can communicate to him that I'm committed to our M is to continue to be here and show him changes, validate and not push him on R, OW or other questions. Right?

I'm really struggling with what type of realistic boundaries I should set and which ones I should keep to myself and which ones to communicate with H. I feel like I'm being really "needy" on the board right now. Sorry guys. I just want so much to handle this the right way.