WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 8

[confusedinpa]

We/I got home late from the baseball game. It was a pretty good game. We won with a 2 run homerun in the 8th - I was actually worried that it was going to go extra innings as it was almost 11PM by the time the boys got to bed.

I tried to be the best CIPA I could be when I was with her. She met me and the boys at home at 4:30 and we left for the game. She chatted about her day (mostly stuff that she was annoyed about) and I tried to be upbeat, positive and supportive. When we got to the game, we met up with her dad, her sister (who's divorced), her sister's kid, her sister's boyfriend, her cousin (who's 28 and divorced) and her cousin's boyfried (who's mid 40's) and several of her dad's friends and their kids - total of 16 of us.

At first I was going to have the boys sit between us but we wound up sitting next to each other after my oldest and I came back from throwing the opening pitch. It was pretty crowded and she said that I could put my arm around her if it was more comfortable. I did and she wound up resting/nestling up against me. I could see her dad and his wife looked a little surprised. My wife and I continue to chat and when she talked with her dad, I focused on my two boys.

I think we all had a good time. We had a couple of beers and ate hotdogs and fries for dinner. My wife seemed grumpy when she was complaining about her sister (they don't get along at all). She commented about how she was annoyed how her sister and her wasn't close/connected (I almost said, that perhaps she's the issue as that was her complaint about her and I, her and her dad and almost everybody else that was close family). I just acknowledged and validated.

Overally I think it was good evening. When we got back home, she helped put the boys to bed. She stayed and chatted for a couple of minutes before she left for her apartment. I wanted to give her a hug, but I didn't as it didn't seem like she was ready/wanted one. It didn't bother me.

She didn't show up for dodgeball today. I was a little disappointed but I didn't let it bother me. I just played dodge on the sidelines with my youngest as my oldest played. It was a blast. Before dodgeball, the boys and I went minature golfing as it finally stopped raining after almost 10 days straight.

Overall, the boys and I had a good day. I think the 4 of us had a good time last nite at the baseball game.

My wife did call me today as she was still having problems getting her Ipod working with her new computer. I tried to help over the phone, but she couldn't get the DVD's that I gave her with her library on it to read the music files. I said I would try to burn another set for her.

Before the boys went to bed, they made a mom-day card for her.

So it's now 3 weeks. I think my wife and I finally had a nite out where she enjoyed being with me and the boys.

So it continues.....