H has always had things his way - never had to be responsible as others often took care of him. Typical A stuff. He didn't learn to be responsible or think about anyone but himself. He also never grew as a person and doesn't really know himself. IC is helping him with this.
As far as just having fun - I have tried and insisted on this but he can't relax that way - outside of physical contact he prefers to do solitary activities. Remember, until now, he has spent most of his days staying at home and drinking. I am used to doing things with others or enjoying most activities - I can have fun doing anything.
He can't be around me without R talking. He is either planning things to do together, (which we never end up doing)or complaining about the way things are, (but not resolving a thing) or analysing everything said or done to death.
My major issue is that everytime he doesn't like something I do - it becomes a reason to move out or leave or get a D. Then days later he apologizes and asks to work it out but it never gets worked out.
When I agreed to date last month, the pattern of arguing or walking out or canceling plans continued. Although he has been changing attitudes gradually, for instance, one week ago I agreed that he could move back in Aug. and we started to make plans for the move. Less than one week, and he says he isn't prepared to handle things. Now he apologizes and wants to get back on track and I am not certain I can do that anymore. I can't believe a word he says, and don't trust him. How can I move forward with this?
