She keeps on saying that none of this would have happened if I just retired and not gone anywhere. Do I feel a little guilty about leaving--yeah, I do. Did I force her to make poor decisions? No
As I am so fond of seeing Puppy say, "script"
I think you are seeing from the responses, everyone has been told something that "if you had only done this then I wouldn't have" and quite frankly in my sitch it has been a moving target
It's just a coping mechanism. Don't let it bother you even though I know that is easier said than done (especially by me) More importantly self reflect and arrive at the things you maybe need to change. Mine was shift work but the truth is we drifted apart because married life and a child got us into a rut.
