Firstly with H.... I have told him all of the things you suggested I say. In fact I've tried that a few times over the past two years, the last time being last month (I said more than I posted and I was very clear), and the time before that being in January- I think I posted the details when I did it. It didn't work on any occassion and there's really only so many times you can say the same thing! Life goes on, or my life has to at least.
Secondly, the sigh was really more because I think it's sad that our R came to D, as opposed to having any burning desire to reconcile (or anything else). It's sad when a long (and previously very close and happy) R comes to an end, and to see someone who was such a strong and confident man as lost (or seemingly lost) as he is..... I think that D in general results in lots of sighing- the process is sad. I imagine there'll be more sighing before it's final.
CEO (whose birthday is April 8th- not sure what that is?)- has a lot of integrity. He's probably the most honest man I've ever met (in RL, Handsome). I don't think he's commitment phobic because he's told me several times that he'd like to marry and have a family (and there's been at least one woman who he wanted to live with/considered marrying).... but then if he's a player perhaps that's just a thing he says?!
On the other hand it's not in his best interests to play me, since playing me could only result in meltdown in our working R and trouble for his company (since I'm the only employee). Therefore he's probably not playing me..... it's more likely that he's attracted to me and can't/doesn't take things further because of whole boss/work thing. In any case I'm not letting him control the situation any more- I'm taking control. He's 40, BTW, not that old to be unmarried for a City type from what I can tell.
On the argument front, I don't see the disagreements as a problem. I actually view them as quite a good thing because we both express anger/frustration to each other and then very quickly resolve things and continue. I'd be more scared of an R where there were no disagreements/opportunities to vent frustration since H had/has some problems in that area that probably contributed to him becoming a WAS. I also think that the disagreements reflect some feelings on both our parts since they're really overeactions at the moment rather than serious issues that need resolving. For example, on Thursday we had an overeacting interaction which I'll post in a new post below.
The funniest man I ever met.... tricky to pin down! It was a misdirection to say CEO was the second funniest.... I just didn't want to tell him he was the first funniest. My first love was hilarious. Also a friend of mine who did his PhD in the same group as me, one of my PhD students was just like Peter Kay, and one of my graduates (just like Rob Brydon).... all of them were fantastically funny, on a par with CEO at least. CEO is very entertaining though- lots of laughing when we're together.
