i have played it both ways. i spent weeks getting print outs of our joint account, i would analyze it, explode at him for everything on there, and then file the paperwork away in case i ever needed it.
now, i just dont want to see anything anymore. sometimes things would look suspicious and i was wrong about what they even were.
i found i ended up hurting alittle more because seeing things in black and white hurt. however, maybe it is important to see things for what they really are.
there is a chance you will see he has been in contact. BUT, we do not know what was said in the conversations. i agree that no contact should be no contact, but how do u know if the contact had was even good? perhaps it was all nasty and yelling?
we just dont know.
i hope if u chose to open it, u saw something that did not hurt you.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
