Hey Lisa, good to see your update and see you are doing ok. I have some questions ! lol...
Originally Posted By: One Day
I told him he was the second funniest man I ever met. (Whose the first funniest?)
Anyway, before and after the big meeting we had a bit of an argument. First he was a bit rude to me and I didn't like that. He apologised and that was OK. Later on I thought he was being a bit aggressive in general I guess (I can't really remember why I was upset) but I got really annoyed with him and almost walked out of the room. Uh, ok, that doesnt sound good?? Or not bode well for a long term R with this guy? He's not an Aries is he !?
I've decided that I'm going to give him a taste of his own medicine by periodically flirting very strongly and then being completely professional by turns. I'm curious. You say that he is a "pursuer" and so you cant ask him for a date. Hes 41 (?) a CEO, loaded and good looking and always texting some woman or going on dates, according to your tales of him and yet.. he's still single. Is there a possibility that CEO could have some major issues, or be some kind of... commitment phobe!? I dont get why he wouldnt ask you out if he was interested in a long term R, after the relentless flirting you have been doing for the past 18 months? The more I read of him, he sounds like a bit of a player?? Or is he a man of integrity?
I had to tell him I'd filed the D papers and he looked really upset. So I asked him what was wrong and he didn't say anything, just kept looking upset. I said that if he couldn't tell me I didn't know who he could tell and he looked more upset. I said I only did it because I thought it was what he wanted and he said 'I suppose'. And then I asked if he was happy and he said 'I suppose..... I just want you to be happy' and wouldn't say anything else.
Everything about it says he doesn't really want the D, or was at the least shocked I'd actually done it. I told him that if I had any inkling that he didn't want the D I would never pursue it, and that I just want him to be happy and left it at that. He said 'I know'. I was thinking.. seeing as you are proceeding with the D anyway, what do you have to lose by being honest (and the above doesnt sound to me like open and honest communication. You arent being explicit. Saying "I just want you to be happy" isnt, its woolly). My ex said this to me at Christmas. I took it to mean, he still loved me, but he was seeing someone else, so what could he do?
Have you not considered just saying to H... H, I still love you, I dont want to D. Is there any chance you could end your R with the aub and we can work this out? If not, then I will be your friend, but I have to ask you if there is a possibility, before I file.. ???
It just sounds like you are STILL stuck in DBing communication, not stating your needs or talking about the R and after such a long time and the possibility of filing, is it worth laying your cards on the table for one last time? I say that because you did a bit of sighing, held his hand to the tube and said, can he not see that the way he feels would indicate love? So I am assuming you would still be interested in reconciling with him, if he was willing to? But I agree with Austin, it all sounded like this time last year.
