Hi Ali, I have no qualms about sensitive men, but what you actually said was
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but he could be depressed and needy at times over the past 13 years, I never minded
SO thats 13 years not just the last 2, when he had his breakdown or whatever crisis. That was my point.
As for speaking to my h only 4 times that has been since we D,not actually since he left. I did it for my own sanity and healing. I have closure. I accepted he wanted/has a new life and I was not in it.You cannot make people love, want or need you. I have no need to speak to him. I have no wish to open old wounds. I doubt he could tell me anymore now than he did then. My children now all have partners and I have a g/c so my family is expanding and they are all happy and well balanced. We talk about "Dad" as we would a much loved friend who now is no longer with us,but it is always memories from the past not the now. So I hope that answers your question.
