Question... he has been leaving messages - apologizing for overreating, explaining "his" problem and after IC says his therapist thinks he can help him with his issues and help us to reconcile differences. I had been telling H that he has to consult with his IC about the timing of MC given what he is working on in IC. Therapist recommends waiting a bit. The IC knows us both very well and I think he has always thought that it was workable with some hard work on both parts.
How do I know whether to keep trying or not? He is working hard on his issues and wants to be with me but everytime I begin to feel good about him and make plans for the future - he flakes out. I do believe that he needs time - but I can't help but feel abandoned and dissappointed - I didn't get M to live apart and have to work so hard at this age.
