Yes Being Me, she was kind to me. She never told me what I should be doing or have your tried this or that...blah blah blah she just listened, empathized and shared. When she spoke she said what was in her heart. Friends would often say "OMG, she said that to you! She's after you" but I never ever felt that was her motive. I experienced it as someone who cared about me. I never felt she was hitting on me, wanting me to ask her out etc. We were just two people, who for whatever reason, seemed to care about each other. Of course, there were romantic undertones or this wouldn't have been a problem. I admit my guilt! I remember my shrink at the time saying "you two have a very intense bond and one of you may need to walk away at some point" Guess it was her! Would I have hit on her? Not while she had a boyfriend but if she ditched his butt somewhere down the road I'd have been on her like...well, you know I'm sure she knew it too. My hurt was that she didn't trust me enough to be honest and say what was really going on for her. Instead she avoided me like the plague and then handed me the "chores" B.S. At least when she handed me that line I saw her eyes tear up and as I walked away stunned she called after me "Please don't think you've done anything wrong, you haven't". Life is just too weird sometimes. But, that's then and this is now! Onward and upward. Now, off to the party...gotta pick up strawberries on the way. Hey, did I mention that STBX called me yesterday to thank me for taking care of a certain situation. We had an issue with Revenue Canada and she asked me to look after it, so I did. She phoned me to say "I just want you to know how much I appreciate what you did. I have so many people I have to chase around to get things done these days. The fact that you took care of it really means something to me. Thank you" That was the phone message. Yup, life is weird!