Slowly but surely - detach and 180

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I am thinking maybe I won't bring it up in counceling after all. I will just try to listen in conversations and at the end repeat back my understanding to make sure I haven't assumed anything incorrectly. So in the previous example I could have said I did not get back to you about the time and I understand that must be frustrating for me to ask you about it again. So my understanding is that you are OK with keeping them later and being flexible on the time.

I also thought about asking her about her being hostile towards me lately but think that is also not a good idea. Even if I say it is an observation and not a judgement she will get very defensive about it. I just need to let is slide off my back. I do want to state at the beginning of the next counceling session that I want to give W the opportunity to discuss things that are on her mind and what has bothered her and let the C try to draw her out. She has hardly talked unless it was when she was very defensive. It would be interesting to see what she says. It will still be distorted by her current fog but I will get a peak into what she thinks are the problems.

Going out with some new friends again tonight. I am finding more and more things to do. Mostly every night I don't have the kids I have something I can do to have fun. I am actually wishing the W had the kids more nights. lol