I received emails from my H yesterday re our D7 spending time with her half sister on the weekend. me, my D and my mum are visiting friends about an hour away but I agreed that my H and SD could see D7 Sat morn for 4-5 hours and Sunday aft/eve for about 5 hours. I have not denied H access of our D in any way.
Many thanks for your email today:Fri, 8 May 2009 12:25:34
I would firstly like to reiterate that I am more than happy to facilitate D7 spending quality time with eldest D this weekend as their relationship is an important one. That said, the times that I have outlined in my previous email to you are the times that D7 will be free this weekend. I am sure that you can appreciate that I was not aware of eldest D's travel schedule until your email dated today. Unfortunately, on this particular occasion, it is going to be difficult to accommodate eldest D's travel arrangements. I would also kindly request that in the future you do not involve family members in correspondence relating directly to D7's access arrangements; this is highly inappropriate under the current circumstances.
Please do let me know if my proposal meets with your requirements. I am also happy to say that for your convenience I am not only happy to correspond through your new email details but I also have a GMAIL account below; if you would prefer to correspond via this address that would be fine.
I then received this response..........
Thank you for your reply. I am sorry to say that due to your unwillingness to negotiate a mutually agreeable time for me and eldest D to spend an appropriate length of time with D7 at the weekend eldest D has cancelled her visit. I am unable to take D7 tomorrow morning and so, I would request that you would bring her to hotel (near our house) at 5pm on Sunday. I will return her there at 8.30.This period of time on Sunday is completely inadequate for balanced care. I urge you again to consider her welfare and agree to a fair share of the day being spent with me.
I will be away on Monday but will be in touch with you about D7's care for the coming week on Monday. As for correspondence from my family to you you may rest assured that it will not be a problem. As you know eldest D's email on my behalf was due to my server problems and urgency in deciding her arrangements re seeing her sister.
I am so hurt........I do understand that he is hurt (the application for interim barring order was approved on Thursday) so of course he would feel wounded. But I had to protect me, my D and my mum in our family home. I miss his family; they have been mine for 10 years and now they detest me and want nothing to do with me.
