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So, basically...if I stop treating him like he's an incompetent, idiot, that isn't as smart as me, and can't do anything right, including taking care of his responsibilities....maybe, just maybe....he'll start acting like a competent, intelligent, smart, responsible, dependable, father and ex-husband?


yes yes and holy cow yes! ;\)

men HATE to be questioned, to be told, to be the end of finger pointing, etc. it's all disrespect. I learned that the hard way. The only thing is, like FG said, it may not work. This character of his has been embedded in him so deeply, it will take a long time for him to "fix" himself.


Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."