okay, looks like I started a LONG debate a while ago. I don't plan on reading it all as I will probably start it all over again. ;\)

but, I do want to clarify myself. I think it was great that SMW had this discussion with H. I think it is great that she was able to stay calm and tell him what is going on with the kids. HOWEVER, (and btw smw, I did not hear all of that! so I was a little overwhelmed at how much there was) IMHO there was too much of it being drilled in. And, if she said exactly what was written, he is going to see it as her using the kids to bring him home. that is exactly how I read it. I know this wasn't her intention, that she just wants him to realize the truth of the matter, but this is how HE will take it. Of course, it looks like there were no major repercussions from it, and because this was a 180 for her, it seems like it has been a good thing. BUT, that's where I say, don't do it again. You do these types of things once, and no more, otherwise you go down that cheeseless tunnel again. But, I am not saying this for you smw, as I know that you won't, but saying it for others.

okay, I hope I don't start another discussion, but just wanted you guys to understand that I was not against her doing this, and she's doing a great job, and we know that it is only a matter of time and we will all be celebrating with her. \:\)

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."