I did it a lot when they started school then started back down. Then she staretd going and then stopped. I fetl guilty about not going as often then started up again.
The kids come first, I think she knows it but doesn't seem to practive it.
I am part of 2 single parent meetup groups in north dallas area. I will let you know how the events go this weekend. I'd recommend you giving it a try if you are interested in meeting other single parents like us. I'm going to try and make the most of it and maybe make some good friends out of it.
Just an idea that could also maybe help you out with more support as well.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I was thinking during my run that maybe I don't want to be with a woman like her. If this is what she is all about, maybe this is it. I should just move on, not sure. Just thinking.
It just seems that these last few days have been harder than most; as far as the whole fmaily (inlcuding W) have been on my mind.
It seems like the pieces of the puzzle are falling into place...except she is the last piece.
I hope you're doing better. Nothing is more frustrating than having a string of hard days. Funny you mention the puzzle pieces..... reminds me of waiting and having patience for God to work things out and reveal His will. Seems like the piece we want clarity on the most is usually the last piece :-).
Originally Posted By: jaguilar
I was thinking during my run that maybe I don't want to be with a woman like her. If this is what she is all about, maybe this is it. I should just move on, not sure. Just thinking.
I know running for me also lets my mind run wild.... both good and bad. It is a time for me to think about everything and relieve stress. But my pondering mind can also drive me crazy at times when I just want it to stop thinking!
I have similar thoughts about my H. I think it is normal to question them with the hardship we're going through. It is definitely a fair question to ask of ourselves.
Hope you have a great Friday Jag!
Me:28, first M H: 33, second M Married: 08/08 Bomb: 10/08 H filed D and deployed: 12/08 Served: 04/09 I deploy: 07/09 Hearing date: 08/09
Funny thing, we had a leaders meeting on Tuesday. I was not having a good day, work has been a struggle but I've been faking it. I had been debating whether or not to get Fire Proof for my W. I've been putting it off. Anyway, our manager told us that he was thinking about me over the weekend. He mentioned to our supervisors that he has noticed that we put in more hours than other supvs in other centers. He stressed how important it was to be there for your family. Right then and there, he said because of your families and the struggles I had been going through he bought us the Love Dare (from Fire Proof). I was floored...
Wow, isn't it great when God speaks through others and you know he's there for you. This past weekend our church had a guest minister, and at the first part of the service he seemed really dry and boring. But when he got to the sermon he started by quoting from one of my wife's favorite books (I and Thou by Martin Buber), and then went on to talk about connections with others, and how spiritual connections can be tested.
He then went on to talk about how spiritual connections are not just with other people, but how you can feel them when you look into the eyes of a pet and feel that special bond. This was 3 days after looking into my dogs eyes for the last time before the Vet put him to sleep, and his eyes just seemed to say "It's OK". As the minister was talking about bonds with pets, he was looking directly at me.
Well I just got off the phone with the W. Her lawyer wanted me to continue to pay daycare tuition, after I tried to tell them I would agree to pay to half of tuition as always. But they were headstrong on wanting child support. So they wanted me to pay tuition for last week, this week and next week. I paid last week, saw an L and she told me don't pay it. That's her child support. I said ok. I didn't think about, but she was going to come out ahead, getting an extra $500 not including child support for 3 kids. Anyway, she just calls now and asks if I'm going to pay, told her a legal aid advised me not to pay and told her the cycle, got mad and said thanks for the heads up and hung up. I wanted to say thanks for the heads up, like when you were serving me with divorce papers.
I agree with your lawyer. Your W will have to get over it. Whats fair is fair. And you shouldn't be paying tuition plus child support. She makes more than enough money and shouldn't even be asking.
Sounds like you are handling the situation good.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
