WAW, progress than setbacks... need advice

[MrRegret]

Ok, I have a HUGE update. Things have been going pretty well. So she asked if she could come over to get something, and the older son could visit the dog. (remember, this is her son that said he never wanted to come back) She had just signed the older one up for the YMCA. She needs him to be somewhere while she is at work. She won't let him stay home by himself. So, we were talking and I asked how long she signed him up for. She said an entire year. From today to today of next year. Ok, I have been doing REALLY good and playing hard to get, not pleading or acting needy.

But I couldn't take it anymore. I asked, "so, we are not going to try to work on things? I know you need time, but if you go off for a year, you know darn well, that we most likely won't get back together."

We then talked about her needing to "see" the changes more, but how, when we only go on short dates, and we are always on our best behavior. I said I support her in whatever she chooses, I am just worried we will grow apart. I offered dinner, and they decided to stay for a while. She had a private conversation with her son, and he suggested they pack some clothes and come back for a "trial". And that was what her and I were discussing too, so it was nice he was on the same page. I told her that she wants to make this work, and she asked how did I know. I said she was not asking for child support, and she needs it, so why wasn't she filing? I then asked her why she said she only wanted to see me once a month and we need our space, then she makes plans with me almost twice a week. And she said I pester her on texts all the time, yet she is the one who texts me every single day almost. She is almost updating me every few hours of what she is doing! Well, she started laughing and said she understands my wondering about it all. And that one night, when I did not answer her texts, and later said I was out all evening, she got worried about what I was doing, who I was out with, and it upset her. That she kept in contact with me after that so much, as a small way of keeping tabs on me. And that she didn't file yet because she really did want us together, just not sure if I was going to change for the better. Since I stopped begging and pleading, since I came here and started reading the book, she started noticing all the changes.

The very next day, she had me pick up her oldest from the "Y" and he and I went to lunch and talked and such. She brought our son for my weekend, so I wouldn't need to go pick him up. And we spent the evening together. She already started telling her friends that we are going to work things out. She is SOOO afraid to tell her parents. They took her and the kids in, made many changes for her, and they have always disliked me, let alone all this. So almost nothing will convince them of us trying to make things work. This is actually one of the hardest things for her to do. I told her, they may not support this for a long time, until we prove to them that we are able to be happy again. And that in 5-10 years, if we are together and happy, doesn't she think they will look back and be glad her and I made one more attempt to have what we want? A family.

So, not sure exactly when they will "move" back home, but we are going in that direction. Unless her family can work voodoo on her, or I mess up with my attitude, we are on our way to making things work. Soon we are going to get a pro marriage counselor, for our other issues.