Yes, I have told my lawyer that I want him to stall as long as possible, but how do you stall with someone that is giving you EVERYTHING?
Jimbo, do you honestly believe that her filing changes absolutely anything for you? It is just paper and not what this has been about for you so in all honesty it doesn't change anything. What is going to happen between you and your wife is going to happen whether you are divorced, separated, or living under the same roof separately.
You continue to work on yourself. You continue to live your life and become who you want to become. She may end up attracted to that again, or...she may not. At that point it is not supposed to matter because you are in a good place and comfortable whether she returns or not. Bottom line, this action changes nothing.
Delaying a divorce outright is not a good idea. You can take your time within the constraints of the law. You can counter propose if you want or need anything to read differently. That is about it. Stalling the divorce does not impact what you are dealing with. In fact I have seen it be a detriment to some who have tried this tactic.
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I don't see how I can fight this.
What I would love to see is for you to stop "fighting this". Detachment in the truest sense of the word means that this is not something you need to fight. You simply let go and let things happen. Understand I am not in any way saying that it won't work out down the road, who knows what God has in store for you?
Jimbo, the fear and sense of loss that you are experiencing is perfectly normal. However you have to be strong enough to not allow it to consume you. You have to truly let go my friend before this thing eats you up and makes you forget who you really are. You have a good group of friends that can help you through this. Use them, now is the time. It is time for you to let go though bud, it is not healthy to allow it to be an anchor around your body.
