Thanks Ali, for giving me the benefit of the doubt...
I agree that if we want to have a varied sex life at home, that is nobody's business but ours. And I think as long as both people are comfortable, have all the fun you want in bed (or around the house, whatever works )...And trust me we had a lot of fun in bed, he still agrees that was not a weak area of our relationship
The problem is when these things happen outside the two of you, and a wall is built between you...and lies build up, and then one of you has basically a secret life apart from your spouse. You cannot have a marriage if you are living a double life. And Dan has been living one, as far as I can tell. I don't know why it wasn't clear to me before.
I think I was so upset by the affair with stephanie (his coworker in K.C.) that all I could see was the betrayal, the lies of that relationship. In reality that is only one piece of the puzzle. I hate to say it, but as much as he travels, knowing what I know now, I wouldn't be suprised if there were more women 'out there' that he has been with, in one way or another. I couldn't go there in my mind before, but I see the possibility now. So what if SHE wasn't on trips with him. There are escorts/strip clubs/phone lines in every major city in the country, practically...
)...And trust me we had a lot of fun in bed, he still agrees that was not a weak area of our relationship
