NEVER and til this day has seen the fact she lives with OM as a problem.
Can you give a little more detail here. Do you bring up the living relationship? I have a similar story. Our D is engaged and ex-w needed $ for a down payment for the band. As such I mailed a check to the OM's house where she lives. She then mailed me a receipt from the band, but used her sister's home as a return address. I have to laugh. As I mentioned on BF45's thread, the common aspects of these stichs continues to amaze me.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM