markhaving probs dropping the rope

[markhaving probs]

gucci loafer,

For a start, thank you for getting involved in my sitch. To get to cases regarding my wife and the supposed OP, all I can say with hand on heart is this - weight loss, new clothes and seductive underwear, no physical contact, nights spent with 'girlfriends', wedding rings not worn when I have the children yet they are worn when she has the children and she does the school run and mixes with other parents. ILYBIANILWU, basically the symptoms that point to OP. Since the bomb dropped in December '08 I have quizzed her on a few occasions and got the expected response, I also have not found any pysical evidence to support my gut feeling.

I can only presume she is now so suspicious of me that she is incredibly careful of being caught, or she is not involved in a EA/PA and is genuinely one of the people that decides a marriage is over because of her feelings. In other words, I cannot conclusively tell you if she is having an affair but if I had to put money on it I would say she is based on the above and a gut feeling.

Phoenixdeux, I so want to try and re-start our relationship, not reconcile as that takes two people to want to do that. I certainly do not want the woman I married at the moment, and she does not want the person she left, so I am attempting to make changes to improve me and my relationship with my children. Secondly, I hope my wife re-evaluates her decision to break up the family unit and would want to re-build our relationship.

gucci, I hope there is enough information here for you to play with.