The adventure continues--part 5

[AFWAW]

I do agree with you, however, that it should only be done as a last resort, after the cheating spouse has been given multiple chances to end their affair. I also think you should only do it if you're prepared to face the inevitable blowback.

I've been thinking about this. She has had multiple opportunities to end it and come home but says she cannot. I'm really trying to see what the blowback is but I don't see it. What else can she do to me? She's not going to be the custodial parent. If she gets exposed she will get some paperwork and probably get "fired" from her special duty job. They will probably just PCS her to another base and she won't get a PCS medal. I get to stay here and she would have to go possibly. I love her still but why should she get to cake eat and advance in her career for doing the wrong thing while I went to Iraq, have never cheated on my wife, run away from my family and acted like a little kid? There has to be accountability at some point. She's enlisted in the military and a Senior NCO--it's against the rules to have a relationship w/ an officer and not only that adultry is against the rules as well. If I don't expose her, she's going to make rank and do you as the taxpayer want her to lead your sons or daughters and be an example to them. Also, if I expose, maybe she will get help before she self destructs. I don't think coming home is an option at this point. I still care about her though. Intersting perspectives--it is a difficult decision which I will wrestle with up to the very day I decide what to do.

Even though I may be angry at this point--I feel it's the right thing to do morally and to prevent her from self-destruction. I will continue to be open for suggestions on this though. thanks.