Why would you EVER tell her that? You're telling her it's ok to be mean to you? I know it sux and you just want to have some communication but you don't want that, ever.
Hi Volleydog - I told her that because I feel it is something that I can handle coming from her - and that it may help her let go of some of her anger towards me. I didn't realize that it would come across as telling her its ok to be mean. But also if I know my wife once she starts to vent about something, she usually starts to let it go. I'm hoping that it will allow some of her resentment go and open up the communication between us again, allowing her to see the changes that I am making in me - now I just have to make sure that these changes stick. Would really be bad to fall back into old habits, especially if I can reopen the lines of communication. I'm not looking to pursue her - just trying to show her that people can change and even though she hates me - thin line between love and hate - that I can be the person that she once was in love with.
Me 35 W 30 S 3 M 7 : T 13 yrs Separated 2/20/09 My Story
