And yes, I can love her despite the fact that she may have had an emotional or physical affair with another man.

But I need honesty in my life, no more lies, no more bull$hit, no more second guessing, no more assumptions that everything is ok when it isn't.

When you spend enough time separated, doing research on this DB'ing, testing techniques, speaking to people, learning so much about human psychology, etc, You become aware of an entirely new world that you were previously naive about.