Rob, I think you need to be prepared with what your short list of "dealbreakers" are.
What ARE they?
This is your chance to start to build an entirely new relationship, a "do-over" using what you've learned while apart. Upon what kind of foundation and boundaries would you like to build it? DO you even want to build it?
Puppy
Puppy thanks for the reply, I read your post and I seriously don't know, I never thought about it this far in advance. Does it sound ignorant of me to say that I'm kind of dumbfounded at this point?