I've been posting alot in other user's threads and offering advice, here's an update on my situation and I'm asking for input/comments/advice.
Today she mentioned something about possibly wanting to move back home & try again.
I haven't talked any relationship talk with her in ages, in fact I've been getting used to my current life. Truth be told, getting my own life & living my own life and taking care of just myself and the kids has been detaching & getting a life without calling it that.
What should I be asking her? What should I be telling her? I didn't say anything when she mentioned, I played dumb, brushed it off, kind of like "ha ha very funny" and continued with another conversation we had started earlier. In fact I did this on autopilot which probably made me look like I wasn't acting when I laughed it off, it only registered after she left to go to work (she had come over to visit me & the kids). Now that I think of it, she has mentioned this in half whispers in other conversations (ex. "this place could use a woman's touch, maybe one of these days I'll move back home and help you run this zoo")
I'm almost wondering now if she's serious.
What's standard protocol in this situation where the WAW may be asking to come back to the LBS who kind of became the WAS during this process. Is she testing me? Is that possible? (I guess I answered that myself, anything is possible).
p.s. out of the blue yesterday, she called me at work and asked me out for dinner, she took me to red lobster and she picked up the cheque (which is very rare, in the past she would never have done this)