She DID enable me, and she did give me horrible advice, but she was the only one there during that whole time. I don't feel like I cannot NOT be her friend in some capacity. However, she IS that friend that "sucks the life out of me" emotionally because she has lots of issues and problems. She also makes me feel bad about myself. Or, I should say, I let her make me feel bad about myself.
I don't think you should feel guilty about giving up that friendship. I think you can have healthy and unhealthy friends, and you don't owe the unhealthy ones everything. I mean you could leave the door open in case she ever decides to become healthy, but you prob. should distance yourself from her. I mean when I think about it, I think of the friends my H had when he was drinking/partying. Hey, they all needed help, but if you want to get healthy (and my H did at that time) it's best to avoid people like that. And if she's sucking the life out of you and making you feel bad (even if you are allowing it), I don't know if she is a true friend anyway. Karen
