Right now it is for 2 months until we check in again on the situation. At that point I could ask her to find her own place...that was part of the agreement. I am treating this as a roommate situation. Last night I went out with my friends and crashed at one of their places because I had had a few drinks. All I did was send W a text to let her know I was crashing there so she wouldn't worry about it which was also part of the agreement. That's it...didn't ask for permission to do it or anything. Unless something changes then she really is just a roommate to me. I'm not going to bend over backwards for her. We just went to lunch together again. She called me to ask if i would go. And we split the check. Just like i would do with any of my other friends. Actually was a pretty good lunch. We laughed and joked about stuff. Pretty light-hearted. I will continue to work on myself and enjoy the single life to an extent (not going to get involved with anyone as that's not what I'm about nor would it be fair to myself or the other person). I know what you are saying about avoiding separation at all costs. I know the statistics say that the chances of reconciliation are better if the WAS doesn't get their own place. I get that. Honestly it probably does influence my decision to some small degree. One thing I do know is that even though W may have pulled a little bit of a fast one on me by how she brought this up and may think she has the power in this...she doesn't have it all. I control my life, my feelings, my destiny, my future. I can at any time decide this agreement doesn't work and ask to end it. I can at any time drop the rope and move on to a life without her. I have that power and know I do. I choose not to use it right now because i still believe that my marriage may have a chance to be saved. If I come to the conclusion that it can't be or that I don't want to be married to this person then at that time I will use the power I have to end it.
