This morning, I text W about S13 homework and that I will miss S15s game tonight. So, W called me and asked about the homework and what I am doing tonight. I told her that I have plans and she asked what plans and I said just plans and she didn't know what to say and then I said I'll talk to you later which she responded with I guess I'll talk with you over the weekend, so then we said good-bye. Then she texted me "Good luck with car. Why do u have to be so cryptic to me when I ask u what you are doing?" and I responded with "I'll let you know what the mechanic says about my car" and then she sent another text about am I going to answer the second part of her original text and I responded with "I have no issue, just have plans to have a good time ". To which I have not heard back yet.
I guess (mind-reading) she still thinks we are BFFs or something but as anyone here would know we are not. I was not sure how to handle this as I didn't want to tell her my plans as its none of her business as long as she is with OM.
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
BTW: my plans are to go to dinner with a co-worker than go to my group support session tonight. I really enjoy this group therapy and I think its helped me a lot these past couple of months.
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
You did AWESOME!!! I love that she is curious. I've been saying you need to be more mysterious and this is EXACTLY what you need to do!!! I remember doing the same thing with my H. I didn't give him details, (Heck!!! half the time I was just going to the books store dressed like I had a hot date!!! LOL!!!). But just his wondering and imagination....
I think it causes them to think more about you, and really brings out any potential feelings of loss. While they think they have you as a "safety net" if things don't work out with OP, you are almost like some parent figure in the background (picking them up if all fails), but once that safety idea is in question, and they realize "Hey, some other person might be seeing something in my S, and my S could fall for it.... well, sometimes this upsets the balance a bit. Keep it up...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
{{runningoutoftime}} thanks for your encouragement!
Today was a good day at work, lead 2 meetings and got stuff done as many people out so not many interruptions. Car still not ready as they are waiting for the parts.
Going to dinner then to my support group meeting, tonight's topic is on Happiness.
I drove S15's girlfriend and my parents to S15s double header this morning. He did not play in game 1 but they won 6-0, the second game he started in center field and then pitched when the game went into extra innings. He pitched two scoreless innings with 4 strike outs and they won 4-3, very exciting game even though it was quite chilly for May 9th.
Came home and feed the kids, then went on long walk which I ended up at CVS and met a neighbor. She gave me a big hug and told me if me or the boys need anything to call her, she is great.
Then I went bowling (our last night of the season) and now I'm home waiting to log into work. We are updating our main database today and I have organized my team to start testing their applications at 2:00am. I am a little anxious and I'm not sure why, started thinking about W and am trying to push her out and get ready for work.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!!
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
". To which I have not heard back yet.