Separated & OW coming into picture

[hopeful_cb]

Thanks WDID for you advice and giving some input. I do see what you are saying there with that. I don't really know what I want to do right now so will think about it.

I did try not contacting and not seeing H after he left(before there was OW) and while it did work for about a month the following 4 weeks it seems while I was 'leaving him alone' he used this time to strengthen friendship with female friend until the point where he 'was confused about his feelings for her' and wanted to 'find out' what was there.

so while I do want him to see the consequences of losing me I also feel like stepping back more would make it even easier for him to forget about me and M, while also making it even easier for him to be with OW.

I know I am new at all this and probably not thinking all that clearly but will try my best to figure things out and do the right thing(whatever that may be).