John, I also wanted to ask if you have considered marriage counseling for you and your wife? Present it as something you both owe your daughter...she has to agree that it is best for your daughter to have two parents who live and love together...I hope...is she will not even try I would have to consider wrapping this up quickly. I think you would feel better for one last chance although I am afraid you are going to get hurt...think about it for a week or so and if possible go dark as per Phoenixdeux ASAP. This would make you feel better and you would not have to spend the rest of your life wondering what would have been...
