I see what you guys are saying and you're right...I did rescue her some with this. Nut, I have talked to an attorney and I have been documenting everything that has gone on. I've been divorced before (10 years ago) and learned a lot of what to do and not do during that. For about the past two weeks she has not been sleeping away at night and has taken a more active roll in the care of D3 and even changed her work schedule so she could have more time with her. Last Sunday she suggested we spend the day with D3 and we did and had a great time. First time she has done that in 3 to 4 months. All of this has made me step back and re-evaluate this whole sitch some. The way she was acting before...never home, never spending time with D3, doing anything to move out, etc.... was like she was trying to cut herself out of the family as a whole and that was forcing me to go into protect D3 and myself and start working on D paperwork to do that. Now with her being home a lot, sleeping at home, spending good quality time with D3, being nicer to me in general and asking me out to lunch or cooking me dinner, not wanting to move out... has me wondering if she is having a change of heart about all of this but doesn't want to fully commit to it yet or wants to feel out if I'm receptive to it or something. Her whole attitude has definitely changed some. I am still pretty suspicious and cautious of it though and am going to approach all of this very slowly. As for the redecorating/remodeling....still on as planned. Actually gonna use the money she pays me each month to live there as my roommate to finance it all. ;-) I will re-read NMMNG....right now re-reading DR, then on to NMMNG, then on to NUTS again..... Keep it all fresh in my mind so it becomes second nature to live it.
