John, She's agreed to give me everything--I think the only reason I would need a lawyer is if she wants joint custody? I'm waiting to see what she says on that.
If she has agreed to give you everything and she is also paying the bills you have you should consider getting this signed and filed quickly...she is most likely going to get joint custody...as long as your daughter stays with you then you will have to accept this unless your wife is parading these men around her...you could consider adding to your decree that no males not related to you or your wife be allowed around your daughter...no overnights at her house if she is living with OM. At your daughters age joint physical at 50/50 will be difulcult as she has her own life and friends. If you wife would agree to the everyother weekend, and one night a week, with liberal visitation based on your daughters desires then you should wrap this up quickly.
For now this is strictly a business decision...
Florida Laws on Best Interest of the Child. 61.13(3) When awarding child custody in Florida, the court will consider all factors affecting the welfare and interests of the child, including but not limited to:
a. The parent who is more likely to allow the child frequent and continuing contact with the non-custodial parent.
b. The love, affection, and other emotional ties existing between the parents and the child.
c. The capacity and disposition of the parents to provide the child with food, clothing, medical care, and other material needs.
d. The length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment and the desirability of maintaining continuity.
e. The permanence, as a family unit, of the existing or proposed custodial home.
*****f. The moral fitness of the parents. This is where you could use the proof. I think you have enough that should she get a lawyer he would tell her to settle. The affairs, moving out, telling her lies, and minimal visitation (make sure you keep records) is not going to look good.
g. The mental and physical health of the parents.
h. The home, school, and community record of the child.
i. The reasonable preference of the child as to custody, if the court deems the child to be of sufficient intelligence, understanding, and experience to express a preference.
j. The willingness and ability of each parent to facilitate and encourage a close and continuous parent-child relationship between the child and the other parent.
k. Evidence that any party has knowingly provided false information to the court regarding a domestic violence proceeding.
l. Evidence of domestic violence or child abuse.
m. Any other fact not specifically expressed in these laws that the court considers to be relevant.
Parenting Course in Divorce. A parenting course is required by Florida laws for all couples with children who obtain a divorce in Florida.
Take a deep breath and hang on...again, this doesn't mean your marriage is over if you don't want it to be. I think the exposure is going to have the OMen show their true colors and your wife may get her wakeup call when she realizes she has been used and they dump her...
Stay busy, no booze, keep an eye on your daughter, and take care of yourself in all ways
