I'm glad you elevated the importance of the talk by scheduling it. Smart.
There is a lot of "expect" in your words to her. This doesn't sit quite right with me. You DO want to woo her and you want her to be willing and eager to ML with you, not just fulfill her wifely expectations... make sense? No woman HAS to give you sex out of duty. It is her body and only she can decide who does what with it. But, if your W CHOOSES not to participate in intimacy with you, then she should know that you need to make decisions about your future based on her decision. Not a threat... Just a reality.
Do something nice for her TODAY, not just on Mother's Day (but make sure you do something meaningful on Sunday, too,) so that she knows that you truly care about her and love the non-sexual parts of her too. What can you think of?
I sense that she didn't have much to say because she feels defeated. She really isn't in touch with herself with regard to intimacy. You, of course, can't *make* her explore within. But, with LOVING, patient communication, she may decide that it is important for her to take a look at herself and start reading and communicating more.
How is your communication otherwise? Is she able to share her thoughts and insights on other topics? Or, is she generally "closed?"
I can't help but wonder if her period is for real or a stall tactic.
Baby steps -- Don't push too hard!!! Loving communication... You need her to think more and talk more. Her saying that she's never going to be your match doesn't help anyone.
I'm glad you took a brave step.
Be sure to give her lots of non-sexual love this weekend, CB! I don't think it's time to ravage her -- not yet!! You need more insight into her mind. You need to know more about her fantasies and desires. THAT is intimacy.
