Hi misshim. I love to talk farmy and ranchy and beefy.

What I get from reading your posts (also your Newcomer thread)-
You can be pretty set in attaining your goals such as having your own place, taking care of things without your H, losing 80 pounds, managing without him.
Your H is very insecure about himself and his role in your life.

Do you know about the 5 Love Languages? It might be a good read for you.

If you want to give your H a card then give him one. Try humor though and not mushy stuff. Don't hand it to him, don't put him on the spot about it. Mail it, drop it in his car.

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.