Google and read the "Stockdale Paradaox" it helped me cope with what you are struggling with. DBing is really "Doing Better." You can handle it.
It says "Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties. AND at the same time Confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be."
We know what the difficulties are Coach, it's the things we talk about here on this board...but what exactly is 'prevailing in the end'? Is it surviving? Is it saving your marriage? Is it getting better? What?
Does the fear and uncertainty evaporate when you confront reality, as brutal as it is? I've been hit in the face with it since last December...I've still got plenty of fear and uncertainty!
How did this help you to cope? I'm really interested in how this helped you, and hope that it can help me too!
ps I've seen it on your signature line, and I like it.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
